The Final #phonar Task: ‘A Life in the Day’ Interviews…

Father on having an ADHD son;

  • 1.How did you feel when Nico was first diagnosed with ADHD?

It was a shock but at the same time because it was hardly known in Britain we didn’t know much about it so we couldn’t really have much of a reaction.

  • 2. What was it like growing up with Nico and dealing with his ADHD?

It was hard, im not going to lie, it put a lot of stress on the family and there was a lot of arguments and stress. Because ADHD was newly diagnosed people started to treat Nico differently and as if he was a special and could get away with a lot of things but he was a normal child with child minor behavioural issues. Once he started to see that people were treating him differently he started to act upon his ADHD and play on it. This lead to more stress and arguments within the family as I felt differently towards my wifes views and this later on went on to play a major part in the break up of our marriage.

  • 3. Do you feel labelling Nico’s behaviour as ADHD and giving him tablets did anything?

When we were first told about the tablets we decided to give it a go because like i said it was a fairly new condition that we barely knew about so we thought there was no harm in trying. The tablets helped Nico a little but I don’t feel, personally, that they did anything major. It was just a way of giving his condition a name and trying to understand what Nico really had was a condition or just a bad behaviour.

  • 4. Do you feel like Nico has coped well?

Considering that Nico was quite young when he was first diagnosed, he did seem to cope with it pretty well. I do feel at first he played on the fact that he had an excuse for the way he acted but once he realised that he needed special attention and help he understood. He had a fairly normal life just like any other children but he knew that there was certain aspects to his life that he would have to adjust and make sence of.

 

Mother on having an ADHD son;

  • 1. How did you feel when Nico was first diagnosed with ADHD?

Well because I had read up on ADHD i had a small idea about what it was but there were plenty more things that I wanted to know about. It came as a little bit of a shock but at the same time I has always knew Nico’s behaviour was never right so it was kind of nice to finally have an answer.

  • 2.What was it like growing up with Nico and dealing with his ADHD?

It got harder once Nico had been diagnosed, im not sure whether this was because he knew that there was something wrong with him therefore he felt like he was special and could get away with a lot of things or that myself, as a parent, had done something wrong to make him be the way he his. As a family we tried our hardest to help Nico and just ignore the conditions and carry on as normal, which a lot of the time is what we did.

  • 3. Do you feel labelling Nico’s behaviour as ADHD and giving him tablets did anything?

I don’t believe that we labelled Nico as anything, there was a lot of controversy about ADHD and Ritalin but I knew Nico had problems and I thought that there was no harm in trying. Ritalin had its side effects but was never classed as a bad drug therefore I thought trying it was the best to see whether or not it was going to work or not. Nico is now off ADHD medication and I feel that he doesn’t even need it any more because he has got older and is slowly growing out of it.

  • 4. Do you feel like Nico has coped well?

I feel that Nico has coped very well, once he understood what ADHD was he could get a grip with what it meant he was able to realise that he was a normal child but a few minor glitches. He was able to go to school normally and make friends and even now he fits in well at work and leads a relatively normal life.

 

Grandmother on having an ADHD grandson;

  • 1. How did you feel when Nico was first diagnosed with ADHD?

When Nico was first diagnosed I was more worried about my daughter, Sarah, and how she would cope. ADHD was new to me and I didn’t know much about it and I think that was the hardest part, because I couldn’t really help out or give advice on something I hardly knew about.

  • 2. What was it like growing up with Nico and dealing with his ADHD?

With Nico we tried not to treat him any differently than our other grandchildren, one because we didn’t want anyone feeling left out and two, there was no need to treat him differently because he wasnt really that much different. Nico was a lovely boy growing up and the whole family dealt with the situation like it was nothing.

  • 3. Do you feel labelling Nico’s behaviour as ADHD and giving him tablets did anything?

Nico wasnt a label, he had his problems and ADHD was just a term to explain them. I don’t like classing ADHD as an excuse in which some parents use to mask the thought that their child is actually badly behaved. Nico wasnt that badly behave he just had a short temper, a lack of patience and struggled to concentrate. an accumulation of all these things lead to Nico being classed as badly behaved.

  • 4. Do you feel like Nico has coped well?

Nico coped extremly well and once he understood that he had certain problems he was able to control them and ackowledge them. There was certain moments when he plaed on the fact that he had ADHD and would often use it as an excuse.

 

It has been really nice talking to my family about there stories of ADHD and what its like to have it in the family. Its nice for me to understand it also becuase I am 5 years younger than my brother and was always behind in what was going on with him, so it has been nice to hear how people felt growing up with him. For me Nico was just my older brother, I didnt know much about ADHD and didnt really care about it nor did it stop me from looking up to my big brother.

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